Madeline and her husband Jim embarked on a new chapter in their lives when they moved to Valencia, Spain, in 2019. Leaving behind their life in the United States, they brought with them only two suitcases and their beloved dogs. The couple embraced the slower pace and "live and let live attitude" of their new home. However, life took an unexpected turn when Jim was diagnosed with terminal cancer in 2021. Despite the absence of close family, Madeline found solace in the strong community bonds they had formed in Spain. After Jim's passing in December 2022, Madeline continues to navigate life in Valencia, buoyed by the support of her friends and her dogs, Cleo and Luna.
Their decision to move to Spain was not made lightly. Before settling on Valencia, Madeline and Jim considered other destinations such as Germany, South America, and Portugal. Ultimately, Spain won out due to its accessibility from the East Coast, which made it easier for them to visit their grandparents. Their adventure in Spain began with optimism as they adjusted to the Spanish lifestyle and quickly developed a sense of belonging.
In Spain, Madeline found a welcoming community that eased the transition into a new culture. The bonds they formed with a younger Spanish couple and their children became like family ties, providing comfort during challenging times. Madeline's daughter expressed interest in joining her one day, indicating the strong pull of the life Madeline has built there.
When Jim's illness struck, they faced it without immediate family nearby. Despite this, Madeline emphasized that the connections they made in Valencia were "pretty darn close" to having family around. This network provided emotional support when she needed it most. Dealing with "business stuff" in Spanish was initially daunting for Madeline, as Jim, a linguist who "learned languages at the drop of a hat," usually handled such matters. However, managing these tasks gave her confidence in her ability to continue alone.
Jim passed away in December 2022, marking a turning point for Madeline. Reflecting on that Christmas without him, she noted:
“In many ways, that was the best possible way I could have spent that Christmas.” – Madeline
She spoke warmly of her interactions with young people in a developing country who held Jim in high regard:
“Talking to young people in a developing country to whom he was very important. That was really wonderful. So, in a weird way, I have some very good memories of that Christmas.” – Madeline
By March of the following year, Madeline had moved into a new chapter of her life:
“He died in December, and I moved in in March.” – Madeline
This transition was pivotal for her personal growth and independence:
“Because I was able to manage, and it gave me a lot of confidence for going ahead here alone. Or sort of alone.” – Madeline
Her dogs have been a source of comfort and motivation, helping her cope with Jim's absence. The presence of Cleo and Luna provides daily companionship and a sense of continuity amidst change. As she continues to adapt to life without Jim, Madeline remains resolute:
“Well, we’ll just have to see what happens.” – Madeline
Madeline acknowledges that socializing in Spain can be challenging for Americans due to cultural differences:
“I think the hardest thing for a lot of Americans in Spain, is that Spaniards socialize with their families much more than with friends.” – Madeline
Despite these challenges, she feels grateful for the strong network of friends she has built. This community has been instrumental in helping her feel less alone since Jim's passing.
